what friendship looks like

so yesterday i had a conversation with a friend 

a friend who is further along in life than i am and has made her share of mistakes 

but hears the thing, she saw me headed in the same direction she was at my age and decided she wasn't about to let that happen 

now as much as i love blogging and letting you guys be a part of my life. i am keeping the details of this one under wraps but..i felt you guys should know that having someone that gives enough of a crap about you to piss you off with some home truths from time to time is so important  so i am blogging around the edges for you..

see told you i love you guys 

being a good friend isn't about being there to make the person lath or have a good time ... although that's part of it

its about helping each other grow as people and as followers of Jesus (if your christian) 

so , yes i needed the girl talk yesterday but hell no i didn't want it

and i think that's the difference

a true friend gives what there friend needs , not what they want ..  

lots of love

Lauren

xxx

how time fly's

i thought i would update you guys on how i am doing. then i realized i didn't have much to say..

i seem to have just slipped into a little routine that's so comfortable and familiar to me that one week kind of dissolves into the next  

so when i looked up at my calender this morning it came as a shock to the system when i read it. it when something like this

25th November - cp1 essay due into uni..... that's this coming Monday folks !!!

29th November - 1st December - weekend away with uni friends ...holey cow we are in December

10th December - last Monday at uni before the holidays .... for crying out loud i only have 3 weeks before i break up for Christmas

see what i mean , September seems like yesterday. guess its true what they say time fly's when your having fun 

but i will give you an update

uni is going well. i have finished the above mentioned essay and its ready to be handed in on Monday. i also have made some of the most fantastic friends. in such a high pressured environment it is such a help to have people that are honestly as laid  back as i am. it definitely takes the edge off of having deadlines and assignments

work is INSANE. not only do we have 2 new interns but i have taken over the rains of romance academy at our church (Google it) but i have said it a thousand times i will say it again. i love my job and will do it to the best of my ability until god tells me otherwise  

in personal life im doing well . was at my aunts wedding a couple of weeks ago and it was a lovely day . saw lots of family i hadn't seen in years .. here have some pictures

my baby brother is so hansom 

my little cousin Conner. 

not so little cousins kyiann 

and Rosie 

my nickname is so ingrained it was on my place card 

again with the overload of hansom ...

lots of love 

Lauren 

xxx

      

  

   

     

what adoption actually is

so , if you have been reading my blog for a while you will know that i am adopted.

and you will also know I LOVE IT 

so i thought i would just write a blog to clarify a few things

adoption IS ..

Christ like..

i don't think there is a more perfect analogy for Gods love than adoption. He dose all the leg work before you even meet him. he loves you with his whole heart when when your still not sure how to handle acceptance.comes running towards you the second you turn to face him. and make you his own. o and if your still in doubt 

" he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will" Ephesians 1.5   

misunderstood..

 just a few of the misconceptions

.don't you have to be infertile to adopt ?

nope.!!! but many people who cant have kids chose adoption to start a family 

.so there not your "real " parents?

if by real you mean biological , then no. there not. but that doesn't make your parents any more "real" than mine  

.awww poor you. im sorry.if i was your parent i would have loved you?

ok so my bio mum kinda sucked but , alot of my friends who are also adopted are lucky enough to be loved wholeheartedly by 2 sets of parents, in fact. i think open adoption is one of the most selfless acts on this planet.

a second chance  

im not going to go fully into it hear as it has its own blog post  but my testimony is basically an adoption on 2 levels

the human one 

and 

the god one

being adopted literally saved me. and im not just talking about getting out of the foster system here

i went from scared little kid  

to ,well .... this 

and last of all

ineradicable and worth it

adoption is part of who i am. and is something i will be forever grateful for. yes its messy yes there are bound to be bumps along the way and tears on many occasions from everyone involved. love is best spelled S.A.C.R.I.F.I.C.E and faith is best spelled R.I.S.K

and again i cant think of a better demonstration of that than adoption 

lots of love 

Lauren 

xxx